#EndRapeCulture
Survivors Speak Up
Foreward by Kat Alano

You will never understand what rape is unless you look at it through the eyes of a victim. After my admission of having been raped, many other victims in our country reached out to me, most of them speaking to someone about what happened to them for the very first time, having lived many years in silence and shame. Why? Why must they suffer in silence when there are so many of us out there suffering the same fate? I don’t need to convince you of the gravity of the situation. I will just let you read the words of many others who have suffered the same fate. Let the victims educate you. Let us stop rape culture in the Philippines because the truth is, it is much more common than you think and people need our help to face what has happened to them. Let us not be another country who turns it’s back on those whose rights have been violated. Help us stop this from happening to anyone else. #endrapeculture
BADLY BEATEN – Yung demonyong anak ng nanay ko molested me a number of times nung bata pa ko ang lagi ako binubugbug pag nagsusumbong ako, I looked at the bright side nalang na I’m still a virgin. Ang masakit lang walang ginawa ang nanay ko at kahit walang connection yung topic dun nag aadvise lang naman ako sa kanya na wag siya mag over think and wag masyado pansinin yung problema sabihan ba naman ako na sabihin ko daw sa sarili ko yun, alam naman namin na yun lang yung problema. Bakit ang insensitive niya at ang dali sa kanya na saktan lang ako. Feel ko tuloy ang sama kong anak for hating her.  Maiintindihan ko kung mahihirapan siya kasi anak niya din yung isa pero sana yung comfort and support bigyan niya din sana ako diba? Hindi yung tinitira pa niya ako. Tapos sasabihin niya pag ibang tao mahal ko at mabait ako. Paano ko naman siya mamahalin kung paulit ulit niya akong sinasaktan diba? Hanggang ngayon tinitiis ko siya. Parang ang tanda tanda na niya, kelan ba siya magiging okay? Ang hirap ng wala kang kakampi tapos gustong gusto mo wag magalit at mahalin siya kaso di ko magawa kasi sinasaktan niya ko. I feel so bad na anak kasi I hate her.

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INNOCENTLY BRANDED – When I was 5 I was molested by my guardian’s son. My guardian caught me groping his penis because he told me to. Didn’t know it was wrong. She was so mad at me she could kill me that time. She said I was a slut even though I was 5. She told me not to tell my parents. I am 22 now. Is it too late? :(

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WHAT TO DO? – My girlfriend was raped by her 11 year old cousin when she was 3. It really bothers me. Her parents know and didn’t do anything about it. What do you think I should do, or, for that matter, should I be doing anything about it? I’d really appreciate your opinion, Kat. Thank you.
FAMILY MATTERS – When I was 7 or 8 (maybe even younger, I can’t remember), my older cousin’s husband molested me thrice. I used to stay at their place A LOT because my mom and dad (now separated) fought so much. The first time he touched me, I didn’t know what to do, though instinctively I knew it was wrong. I tried to forget it, thinking it wouldn’t happen again, but it did. The second time he touched me, I couldn’t find it in me to scream. I didn’t say a word. I kept thinking about how my cousin loved her family so much, I just couldn’t ruin that. Months passed, I thought (I was so trusting) he would’ve changed by then, but the bastard proved me wrong. He did it again, while my cousin and their child were sleeping in the same damned room. The next day, I packed my things and never returned. Never talked to him. Never talked about it. Can’t remember everything, because I have a habit of suppressing awful memories. Haven’t told my mom, anybody in my family. Told my closest friends. I still see him during family events and I act like nothing happened. I always try not to go near him, but when he tried or had to interact with me .I make sure he knows that I remember and that I could ruin his “kind” image if I wanted to. I don’t want to hurt my older cousin, that’s why I’ve been keeping it all in. I leave it all in God’s hands now. I heard your story, I believe you, and you’ve inspired me. Stay strong. Keep fighting.

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NO PLACE TO CALL HOME – African 29m. Gf – 28F. Molested by stepfather round 8-13 years countless times. Her mom knew. Mom and stepfather still together. Has siblings still studying. Stepfather is the only provider. All still live in one house. Gf said she forgave stepfather. Bt Gf is still scared whenever she is alone with the stepfather.

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GAY CHILDREN ARE ABUSED TOO – This isn’t my problem, but I’m very pissed! May na-rape na dalawang gay children dito samin. Nung nireklamo na sa barangay yung rapist. You know what our captain said? “BIGYAN NATIN NG CHANCE” Fuccck! Ang kitid ng utak ng kapitan naming! Gusto ko mabigyan ng justice yung mga bata since mahirap sila! Help.

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LOST – Hi thank you sa pagpapalakas ng loob ko to air this out, I was also raped 6 years ago. I was just 12 then. I was raped by a lesbian and her boy bestfriend. I was so scared dahil tinakot nila ako that they will also do the same to my bestfriend and even kill. me and now im having sexual confusions. IM SO LOST.
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STOLEN INNOCENCE – Ate Kat, sa inyo ko palang po sasabihin to 13 palang po ako ngayon. Yung pinsan kopo hinahawakan po yung mga private parts ko ilang beses napo nangyayari yun tuwing gabi po habang natutulog ako Natatakot po akong sabihin kay mama dahit baka masira yung pamilya namin tsaka baka kung ano isipin nila skn

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A GOOD FIGHT – Hey Kat. I just want to share my story. My little sister was raped by my eldest sister’s fiance. My little sister brought it up to us after a year because of the trauma it brought her. We didn’t back down, we fought and that fucking pig is now in jail. Stay strong, Kat! We’re here to support you.

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MAL – 19m was molested by our maid when I was 5. Maybe this is the reason why I’m so MAL today. Don’t know if that’s the reason but I think it is. What should i do?

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QUESTIONS – I admire you. Thank you, Kat, for standing up for voiceless people. I’m deeply affected by this issue, because I was also a victim. How were you able to go on after that? Will you be safe? What if he comes after you now?

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I TOO – I recently watched GTWM S03E34, and I really admired your bravery. Stay strong, Kat. I was also a rape victim, and yes, wala talaga akong magawa. It’s been 4 years na, and nakakainis kapag naalala mo ulit. Especially now, I’m in my mood swings. Urgh!‎
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JUSTICE DELAYED – Thank you for speaking up. Seven years ago a friend called me up right after she was raped in her home. When I got there, her front door was open and she was half naked in the corner of her room. It was just so sad that we had to work “outside the law” to get justice. But I still feel the pain and anger.
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UNCLE – When I was 13-14 my gay uncle raped me. I’m 23 years old now.

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DAD – I was abused when I was 7 or 8 by dad. I only had flashbacks now. Maybe that is the reason why I subconsciously hate men and think they are all pigs. I’ve accepted the fact all they want is sex.

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BROTHER – My brother touched me when we were young. He was a teen back then. I blamed it on his immaturity and hormones. Now that we’re older we’re actually close but I can’t keep that incident out of my mind. But I can’t open up to anyone because he is my brother and he’s actually a better person now.

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BLAME GAME – From K22: the incident happened 8years ago, I was only 14, so innocent, pure and I dont know much anything about sex or abuse like that. I want to forget it and erase it, but there are times that I just cant. There are nights of crying and self-blaming. I feel so little and worthless.

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BACKWARD MENTALITY – I am the girl that got raped by my ex bf. Have you seen the news on GMA about a wife suing her husband of rape? Most of the comments just shows how far behind we are in our battle against rape. “Baliw pala ung babae, nagasawa ka pa” “Kahihiyan ninyo yan, dapat pinagusapan.” I’m disgusted.

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DEADMA – Told my family that I was molested back then. They got angry for a few heartbeats but after that, it’s as if they had forgotten what I told them. I wanted them to console me but they don’t. Makes me think that speaking up is not worth it.
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DATE RAPE – I was 16 and I thought I could trust this guy. He was much older and my friends said he was cool and they trusted him. He bought us drinks. I wasn’t actually the person he wanted to rape that night. I was just opportunity. I was drunk fast and I felt the same thing you described, I felt weak and I couldn’t move.
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#ENDRAPECULTURE – I’m a guy and was molested by cousins, who were a few years older than me. I was still in elementary then and possibly too young to comprehend what happened. It still haunts me to this very day. This rape culture has to stop. Rape or molestation is not something we get over not even after decades.

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SURVIVOR – I’m a guy and I was molested, I still haven’t told anyone. I don’t think I can handle the stigma and the eventual homophobic jokes. Thanks for coming out as a survivor. It’s refreshing to know there are people like me that are just as scared. I hope that someday I can call myself a survivor.

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DUDES GET RAPED TOO – Hey Kat! I’m 19m. Stay strong. I was once raped by a celebrity/public figure who is a dude like me. I just told myself na bahala na si God sa kanya

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AT KNIFE POINT – Kat napanuod ko yung podcast mo, naiiyak ako sa bad experience mo. Ako din biktima ako nang rape nung 7 years old pa at (ngayon 38 yrs old). Nagsisi po ako bakit wala akong ginawa sa mga pamangkin ko, kasi ang brother po ang nang rape saakin ng paulit-ulit habang tinututukan nang kutsilyo.

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IT’S LIKE RAPE ALL OVER AGAIN – It took me 7 years before I spoke up to someone about my experience. I was so afraid of being judged, labeled, and even more just dismissed. You’re right. Filing a public case, having to recall everything, the scrutiny of it all, it’s like being raped all over again. I look up to strong people like you.

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FAMILY MATTERS – When I was around 5, my uncle raped me, my other uncle saw it and just told him to stop without doing anything about it. I remembered my mom saw that my privates were swollen and also didn’t do anything about it. I just want to let you know that your fight against rape culture means a lot to me.

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CAN’T SPEAK UP – Kat, my nightmares keep coming back. I was raped by my cousin while I was asleep. He walked inside my room and started touching/licking my sensitive parts. I didn’t move, because I was afraid he was gonna hurt me. I can’t tell this to anyone because he might deny it and accuse me of making stories.

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FINALLY FREE – When I was 12, my older cousin touched my privates and another cousin 4 years ago touched me while I was tipsy and raped me. I was scared to tell anyone. Until today I cant look at them. I want to bury my past. With what you said I am free, finally. Thank you Kat.

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LAKAS NG LOOB NG HAYOP! – My brother-in-law molested me nung nakitulog ako sa house nila ng ate ko. We were in one room, ako ang nasa kama, then sila sa lapag. Then the next morning, nagising na lang akong dahil sa pag massage niya ng breast ko, lakas ng loob ng hayop! Then inulit niya yun,.hindi ko siya masumbong until now kasi ayokong masira ung family niya
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JOCK ASS – I was crying the whole time I was listening to you. I felt every word you said and it all came back to me. I was gang raped when I was 17. By boys from the school varsity, and ako yung sinampahan ng kaso ng school kasi hindi ako nagsampa ng case (happened sa school dorm by the way) and ayoko nang pag usapan yun dati.

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SILENT NO MORE – Ate Kat. THANK YOU! Dumating na po ako sa point na ‘hindi na lang ako mag sasalita pero na panuod ko po ang recent episode ng GTWM. Tinanong ko sa sarili ko ‘bat ako hindi mag sasalita eh na rape ako?!’ Gusto po kitang i-hug kasi alam ko pa ang feeling ninyo.

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QUAD TROUBLE – You made me cry sa GTWM episode. It breaks my heart. I was also molested when I was 9 years old by our neighbor and pag uwi ko ng bahay, yung uncle ko naman. At nung HS ako, ilang beses na ko pinagtangkaan ng father ko at ng isa ko pang uncle. Wala pa ko sinabihan nito kahit sino!

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MY FATHER IS A MANIAC! – I tried to tell my mom na ilang beses na ako minanyak ng father ko. Binato lang ako ng father ko ng sapatos, di ko alam kung nakalimutan na niya o dine-deny lang niya. Ni hindi man lang ako tinanong ulit ng mom ko. Natapos na lang yung araw ng parang walang nangyari. Sarili mo lang talaga kakampi mo.

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SAME SHIT, DIFFERENT DAY – OMG, Kat. Thanks for sharing your story about how you were drugged and raped in the last GTWM episode. I feel for you. Same shit happened to me 5 years ago. I kept blacking out and waking up while 2 guys were on me. All those years I was blaming myself for being an irresponsible drunk. Now I know. Keep strong.

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RAPE REALIZATION – I cried on your confession. I agree with you, dapat mas pinaguusapan ang sex dito satin and you know what, if I’m not listening to Mo’s podcast, I wouldn’t know I was raped when I was younger, I wasn’t even aware it was rape back then. I feel for you.

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BRAVE WOMAN – Wow Kat. I would really just love to hug you. Just saw your GTWM YouTube video. My ex-girlfriend was drugged and gang-raped and a video of her giving her rapist a “BJ” was posted online. It’s about time someone speaks up. You’re such a brave, brave woman. God bless you, Kat

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